Archive for November, 2011

We Are But Pavlov’s Dogs!

Today, as I was getting my massage, I was silently thinking to myself how the RMT performing my therapy today is not very good.

And I found myself comparing today’s massage to previous experiences, justifying why today’s experience just was not as good, when a sudden stream of thoughts struck me.

Perhaps, it wasn’t the RMT’s technique, but rather the fact that I have been getting used to regular massages that has deaden my senses to what should have been a relaxing and luxurious experience.

Now isn’t this so typical of us humans? 😛

Slowly, but surely, we always fall into the trap of classical conditioning!

This leads me to thinking about the experiences I’ve had with the posts of a few blogs that I have been frequenting.

Now I’m an avid reader/lurker of numerous blogs, and forums. Most recently, I started becoming active in FlyerTalk and MilePoint.

And what struck me as I was voraciously soaking up the posts in the forums, was that there were quite a few posts complaining about how service is not up to par on the readers’ award first class flights! To be fair, this phenomenon is more apparent in FlyerTalk, than in MilePoint.

Here we have… likely the 0.1% of the world’s population lucky enough to get themselves first class flights to destinations of their choice, no doubt through clever strategizing of airlines’ frequent flyer loyalty program, and then we have some of them starting to insist and demand on what they believe are their entitlements, and starting to complain just how disappointed they are with the first class cabin service they are travelling with.

How sad is life when we have come to a point that we have been so inundated with luxury that it no longer feels luxurious and great, but has become the norm that is expected. And when we don’t get it, we start throwing tantrums like my soon to be 2 year old Ethan. Some food for thought eh! 🙂

In the end, I concluded that my massage experience today was not that bad. I focused on how the tension on my body was slowly dissipating away under her skilful hands, and consciously chose to not compare her technique to my previous RMT.

And guess what, it really did turn out to be a great experience. 🙂

I hope to always remember the lesson I learnt today, and to not be jaded by the lovely and wonderful offerings this world has for us.

I will be travelling in style and luxury on Cathay Pacific again in December when I go back to Singapore with Ethan. And this time round, I will be sure to appreciate and thank all the staff who work hard to make inflight experiences awesome.

And now for another promise that I want to make to my dear son.

Ethan, Mommy will do the best I can to make sure that you will grow up, revelling in luxury, but never jaded by it. 🙂 Mommy will not only make sure you always have a grand luxurious time, but that you will also always appreciate and be grateful for the experiences!

There you go, my dear son. My promise to you, with the world as my witness. 🙂

Till the next time I muse.


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In 2 weeks’ time, I will be flying solo with Ethan to Singapore, transitting in Hong Kong for an hour in between. All I can say now is… EEK!

Part of me is very excited, because I am going to be travelling again! Flying CX premium class, no less. But the other part of me is groaning at the thought of being with Ethan 24/7 for 17 days! Can I say EEK! again? 😉

On a serious note, I have my reservations about this trip back to Singapore. The last time I left Singapore, I left broken hearted, with an unresolved fight with my mom… And I’ll be honest… I am afraid of a repeat incident. *sigh*

It took me 6 months to recover from that awful fight with my mom… 6 months before we spoke to each other again… And 6 months of seeing a shrink every 2 weeks… That was quite a journey…

I am trying very hard not to think negatively, but I have moments when I panick, and wondered what the hell I have gotten myself into… again… Will Denise ever learn?

Anyhow, I am not going to dwell too much on the shadows of the past, and instead, forge ahead towards the light… I am not going to let my mom and who she is affect me this time round.

This trip back, I am a much stronger Denise… I have climbed out of the abyss of post partum depression, and I am a whole lot wiser.

It’s going to be a great trip, with mommy here finally bringing Ethan out to experience the fun sights Asia has to offer.

I can’t wait to go on the Singapore Flyer with Ethan, to visit the SkyPark, and lie by the Infinity Pool at the Marina Bay Sands hotel, to ride the Hippo cruise with him, to visit the Singapore Zoo, Victoria Peak in Hong Kong, the Petronas Tower in KL, etc.

It’s going to be a great experience, taking in all these wonderful and familiar sights with the new, but not so new guy in my life. 😉

Oh, Ethan… Mommy and you are going to have so much fun… Mommy is finally going to show you a little of the wondrous sights this world has to offer! 🙂

And now Mommy is off to do more planning for our rendezvous halfway around the world!

Till the next time I muse!

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